My Tropical Island

Picture Credits Go To : http://tropic-island.net/

I need and want to tell you that I am in Tropical Dream Land right now with my Orange Dream Smoothie.

I do not know if you , you or even you know of or heard about or even have a Tropical Smoothie in your location (State)!

If you do please check out Tropical Smoothie Cafe............
They serve Fantastic Real Fruit Smoothies, Bistro Sandwichies, Fresh Salads, Toasted Wraps, Flatbreads and even Breakfast....

I was introduced to Tropical Smoothie Cafe by two co-workers several months ago.
I placed an order for the Jetty Junior Smoothie which is strawberries & banana.
I tell you this, I was in love with first sip of the straw. : )

The Smoothies I have tried & My Favorites:
Super Charged Smoothies:
Immune Blaster
Stress Defender
Very Berry Green Tea

Low Fat Smoothies:
Hawaii Breeze

Peaches n Silk

Super Fruit Smoothies:

Get up and Goji

Pomegranate Plunge*

Limited Time Smoothies:
Cranberry Truffle

Retired Smoothies:

Orange Dream

Experiences with my Super Charged Smoothies:
*I have been sick with a cold or my sinuses is messing with me or I am just tired from too little rest. Immune Blaster smoothie was a life saver, I had more energy and had more of a pep to my step and not to mention very good tasting smoothie. Favorite of mines

*When I have been stressed about moving, not enough sleep or just frustrated, I tried stress defender smoothie and I was amazed on her it helped me feel more relaxed.
Favorite of mines

*Omg, I love Green Tea, so the very berry green tea is a favorite not to mention the benefits from green tea(colds,sinuses, etc.)

Low Fat Smoothies:
I do like the hawaii breeze.
I think the peaches n silk is ok.

Super Fruit Smoothies:
I do like the get up and goji.
I did get a taste of the Pomegranate Plunge from my mommy and it is Great!

Limited & Retired Smoothies:
Cranberry Truffle & Orange Dream is my Favorites as well! : )

I am also in love with The Italian Bistro sandwich which has:
*Spicy ham, Ham, Provolone, Banana Peppers, Parmesan Tomatoes, Fried Greens & Pesto on Toasted Ciabatta
Note: The sandwich did miss the pesto today because the guy forgot my pesto : (!
Even without the pesto, it was still a great and tasty sandwich. The pesto does give the sandwich an extra tasty kick to it............

I wanted to share my Tropical Dream with you all today, if you have a Tropical Smoothie Cafe in your area, please give them a try and let me know what you think?

Check the site out: http://www.tropicalsmoothie.com/

Tropical Smoothie Cafe Slogan: eat better & feel beeter

This slogan is the Best....

Different Now, Why?

We would text everyday, talk everyday or at least every other day.
We would go to the movies, car shows, plays and dinner because we are best of friends.
We would talk about mainly everything because we are comfortable with each other.
We knew of each others dislikes, likes and the horror stories of our individual dates.
We knew of each other's secrets and desires because we are very best of friends.
I just do not understand, well I do understand that it would change just a little when one of us do get involved (relationship).

Did not know that the friendship would not exist anymore......

I know that we may not talk, text or even hang out as much because of the new relationship.
Had no clue that you just did not want our friendship any longer. We both did not see our friendship as a season. We seen as a Reason for Lifetime....
I would like to continue on being friends and being in his life , I want to meet your new woman and that way she will get to know me. I was a part of your life for many years and how can a friendship be throw away that easily.

Now, the text, talk and hanging out has stopped completely.
If we was friends before the relationship, and when I was in a relationship I made time for my friend still.

I do understand that friendships will change a little because the time is made for the new partner and hopefully life partner.

I see relationships as being important because I do not allow just anyone into my life.
Relationships (Family ship, friendship,boyfriend and marriage) is very important and when someone finds a Great Friend, hold on to them because it is very hard to find a Great Friends!

It is a blessing .......
Continue to find time for your friend, just don't cut them loose because now your in a relationship

If that man/woman decides to not be the life partner for you, then guess who is there to help you through your heartbreak(Besides Family) your Bestess Friend......

I was asked some time ago to write about this topic.
I wanted to write from experience and I also asked the friend that did have help in my experience with this situation.

Alexis: Why is that when you was in a relationship, why did our friendship stop?
Him: I was so into her.
Alexis: I do understand that you would be giving her more time, but do not forget about your Great friends.. And I understand that we may not talk, text or even hang out much but just find the time. Great friends are hard to come by, accept and be grateful for the blessing of having a Great friend that would be there with you thick and thin and the same rules apply to you........
Him: I do apologize and I am very sorry for hurting you in that way
Alexis: I know you but if it was to happen again, I know where you live and I would put you in a choke hold.
Him: I will call the cops
Alexis: When I am released, I will come back to you and choke you out again....
Him: I will call the cops again and again
Alexis: I will come back again and again to choke you out
Him: You are crazy,LOL
Alexis: Yes, I am LOL
Alexis: Just want you to know that as a your friend I am here but not just here when you are not involved. If we are going to continue being friends then we deserve to be treated as a lifetime friendship. I wanted you to know that I was hurt by your actions.
Him: I understand and I am sorry......
Alexis: I am not playing with your butt anymore,LOL!

To "MY BEAUTIFUL PERSON/SUPPORTER/READER":
I do understand that you have been going through this situation and you two had a great relationship and now that he is involved with his partner, he has no use of the friendship that you two have had over the years.
I would suggest that you talk with him, and hopefully he would understand on how you feel.
He is currently all into her and now he has no idea on how to distinguish the two relationships.
I hope my experience and the answer from my friend has helped you.

I would love to hear from all My Beautiful People, your experience, advice and opinion on this situation......

WTF! The things we endure at times....

Me and my mommy went to this apartment complex named Crosswinds located in Chesapeake, Virginia.

Wow, this experience is unforgettable in the worst way, LOL !

Me and my mommy gladly walk into the leasing office and it is only one lady in the office and she is on the phone. She did not acknowledge us at all, so I said hello and she still said nothing.
(I know, we should have just walked out)

When she finally gets off the phone, she said yes how may I help you?
(It was hurting her to ask us that)
So, I say to her that I called yesterday and made an appointment for this morning at 9:30am.
She said: You did, who did you speak with?
Note: When she was on the phone, she stated her name was Cherie
So, I say that I spoke with someone named Cherie and I came in to look at a model apartment.
( I was being sarcastic, I really wanted to say:You know you are only one in this damn office, you nasty a@$ B*%!^!)

I know, I know but her attitude was out of this world!!!!

She said: That was me and then she grabs her keys and gets up with more of an attitude and yells upstairs to a make believe person named Fred, I am locking the doors and then says to us, it is to the right with attitude..........

Me and mommy stood there looking at each other like WTF is her Freaking problem!
She walks in front of us really fast, leaving us behind and to mention with her too the side heels that should have been flats and dirty ass pants and her wig that was greased down to her head with blue coloring in front of her hair................................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As she walks, she is YELLING out, IF YOUR LICENSE&LICENSE PLATES MATCH, YOU GET A FREE DECAL, DID YOU HEAR ME? AND THEN SHE REPEATS IT AGAIN, IF YOUR LICENSE & LICENSE PLATES MATCH , YOU GET A FREE DECAL & AND IF YOUR VISITORS HAVE MATCHING PLATES&LICENSE, THEY GET A FREE PARKING PASS FOR A WEEK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"Why did we not leave her ASS walking by her self, we should have turned around and let her ASS & TALK to herself.

We go inside to the apartment and me and mommy rushed through the apartment and leave out. Cherie all of a sudden looks surprised and we are walking back towards the front of the building where we parked in front of the leasing office and as she is unlocking the door, we continue to the car and I say Thank You, and she was like oh OK (Duh Look) and then Cherie says you welcome.

I was still friendly because I know we made her feel stupid, dumb, foolish and an ASS at the end.
No one should endure rudeness and sometimes it happens, maybe we accept it at times because we know how to make a person feel bad about how they treated you (us).
Sometimes we know if we knock a person straight out, then it is charges that may be filed, LOL!
It is ways to let a person know that they are Rude A$% F*&K**S that need to be put in their place.

Me & my mom talked about the experience in the car, we could have left or told her ASS off....
So, my mom called her ASS back and told her Rude ASS off!
It went like this:
My Mommy:
Is this Cherie?
You was very rude and very unprofessional to be in the position that you have.
"That attitude should be stuffed up your A$@!" ( SIKE) This is what I was thinking,LOL!

Back to what my mommy said: You need to check your attitude because it was UN called for.
How can you be in this position you are in with that nasty attitude.
You Cherie, have a great day and mommy hung up the phone very nicely....

You could hear Cherie, saying, but but, I , I wasn't , but....

You go mommy!!!!
The things we endure at times....


2ND Scenario of today: Drivers

OK, I dropped mommy off and headed off to work, and of course no one knows how to Drive!
I am in the far right lane and so this van to the left of me cuts in front of this truck in front of me and almost caused the truck to rear end his van. I decided to get over to the left lane and the guy in the van is looking down at something in his lap ( so, you know why he almost caused the accident)
He wasn't paying damn attention!

I made sure I was clear to get back over to the right lane so that I can get onto I264 West and I looked at my rear view mirror and I see the truck flying on side of the van and then he cuts the van off!

It was not cautious but people on the road make you want to slap the Shit out of them.
Just line all of the non cautious people up on the side road and just start slapping down the line at least 10 freaking times!

While slapping I will be yelling at them about their driving, and then take all license and cars away from them all ! (This would be a great idea, lol!)

Note: I also wish I had a truck that has a shovel located and hooked on the front of my truck and when someone acts stupid on the road, I want to push their Ass to the side of road and make their ASS park their car.......... LOL!!!!

I am not perfect at driving but I am cautious for self and others. When I drive I am driving for everyone else.

I Use to Love Love Driving, Yes key word Use to! : )

Note: I did put a thumbs up to the guy in the Truck!
I just get so frustrated with people on the road because they don't think about others on the road......

I was wrong to put a thumbs but he wanted to make the guy in the van know what he did to him on the road!!!!

DAMN DRIVERS!

THE NEW WAY TO APPROVE A MAN?

Has it come to this nowadays?

The New Way To Approve A Man Application I received today from my co-worker to review, laugh and wonder....

Has it come to giving applications to potential friends, lovers and more?
I will agree that it is very hard to meet that one person that is the one for you.
It gets frustrating, lonely and down right disgusted.
It is very hard to find a man/woman that is close to your perfect. The one that accepts you for you and only you.

The application asks for all types of information like this:

Name: Last, First and Middle " Not Initial but Full Middle Name"
Address:
Telephone: Home, Work and Cell
Date Of Birth, Age, Height and Weight
Ethnicity: Black, Hispanic, White or other
Where do you live with: Parents(Mother,Father or both), Girlfriend,Baby Mama, Shelter etc.
Any Children: 1, 2, 3 or more
How many Baby Mamas: 1, 2, 3 or more and please provide names
Ever Been Married: once, twice or more
Are you or have you ever been on the down low: If yes, Stop filling out application
Do you owe child support: Yes, No or I don't know
*If your ex-wife is getting state benefits(childcare, food stamps.etc) STOP HERE and take care of kids.

Education: Any education at all
Have you been in Jail/Prison: If yes, what was the crime and time spent
Employed: Yes or No (If NO please STOP HERE)
Do you have health insurance:
Last visit to Dentist, Man Doctor, Any illnesses(List the following:Hepatitis,Gonorrhea, etc.)
If Yes, STOP HERE

By signing you agree that all information given is true to the best of your knowledge. For my protection, you may be asked to provide state ID, birth certificate, recent pay stub, recent clean bill of health from a certified physician.

Do you of have you ever used these: Heroin, Paint Markers, Ecstasy, Crack/Cocaine, etc.
Any Falsifying information may result in termination of this relationship (if applicable). and a severe a** whooping by my project cousins Pookie, Ray Ray, Darnell, Lil Krazy or all of the above


Just seeing the questions in an application form is funny.... LOL!!
If you think about it, the questions have been asked over the period of time to that special someone, friend, lover or more.

The questions may have been asked a little differently but it is the same question to many.

What do you think of this application should there be more questions or leave as is?

This application can be a starter out app:, because the questions can go deeper then this over time when we are getting to know someone.

I would like to know what you think about this application and what questions do you ask a man/woman? What questions should be added to this application?

My questions I ask and that should be added to application is:
1. Are you respectful?
2. Are you a romantic?
3. Are you spontaneous?

I have many more questions that is and will be asked over time.

* What do my Beautiful People Think?

My Imagination running ....

If I had a man/fiance that is a Mechanic

Myself Thinking: I really love my car and I know my Baby (Car) is material. I am thankful and blessed with a car that been around for awhile and she is older now and every time I get something fixed on my Baby, I need to replace/fix something a few weeks/month later. I am debating of getting the exhaust,engine inspected for oil leak/something rattling in my engine, crank sensor, and now my strut that was replaced not too long ago. Thinking about this was making me stress/frustrated and so I allowed my mind to go into imagination overload.

This is my imagination running:

Myself: I do not want to get rid of my car

Man/Fiance Mechanic:I know because when I brought you a new car, you made me take it back

Myself: I know and you know I really appreciated it

Man/Fiance Man: What am I going to do with you?

Myself: I know but ......

Man/Fiance Man: But ......

Myself: I had my car for a long time and she is a good car

Man/Fiance Man: You do have a good car or should I say had, it is time to let go
Man/Fiance Man: Please stop looking like that, with the pouting lips and sad eyes

Myself: Still Pouting and sighing

Man/Fiance Man: I want you to drive my truck(2010 Range Rover) and leave Baby with me. I am going to buy everything new for your baby and fix everything that needs fixing

Myself: OMG, OMG, OMG I love you so much and and and I don't know what to say

Man/Fiance Man: Your smile is enough, come here you Lil brat!!!! LOL

Myself: I'm hugging him and then I wrap my legs around his waist with some kisses all over his face

Man/Fiance Man: I am liking this!

Myself: So..........

Man/Fiance Man: So, I will take care of Baby, and get Baby right for you.

Myself: Great! Why did you take so long to do this
Myself: I know, I know

Man/Finance Man: Just give me a few weeks, so I can get some work out of the way

Myself: Take your time baby, my man

Man/Fiance Man: Smile

This is my imagination running wild.... Only in a perfect world ! LOL.........

Sex Text?

I have a question for you all.


When is it okay to talk Sex after talking to someone after 3days?
If you talk about it, does it show that you are only human with needs?

Does it show the man that you are an easy fix?
Does it show that I am woman that like to talk about things without being judged?

Note: I may have not talked about things (sex, how I really feel, etc.) because I felt it was too soon, or what he say or think of me?
(Just the Old Fashion Woman in me) But I have things I want to say at times without being judged….

What is the guidelines or timeframe that makes it okay?

And while I am writing this, a by stander was looking at what I was writing and stated this:

By stander: “It is okay"
By stander: “You can talk all you want does not mean that it will happen"
By stander: “Have you been talking everyday straight"?
By stander: “Have you had lengthy conversation"?

Me: Yes we have, but it has only been text.
Me: Yes, we have had lengthy text conversations

I guess it does make a difference because it is more personal when it comes to conversation over one of the inventions ( Telephone, Cell Phone ).
Is it bad to talk Sex over text and the thing is I have not heard the voice over the phone as of yet.

What does that say about me?
I will say that I am not ready to hear his voice as of yet.
I don’t want to kill the mystery as of yet.
I may want to hear his voice all of the time (If it is sexy)
Text is fun to a degree.
Seriously, text has taken over and being personal has changed.

What does it say about him?
It could mean that he may have something to hide (girlfriend)?
He does not want to take the mystery out of it?
May want to wait until I am ready to hear each other voice over the thing called phone?
May not be a conversational person on the phone?

I know that I am not ready to talk as of yet.
I will tell you this, I did dial the number and was going to talk but I changed my mind.
So, I just dialed the number and never pushed send. I just closed my phone and continued text.
Yes, I closed my phone; I have a flip phone now. LOL
That is another conversation for you all.

I wanted to bring this up because I am going through my first stages of Celibacy!
Yes, celibacy!
He would mention things like (gym, shower, being tall etc) and that would get me to thinking about,
yes you said it , SEX!

I do like Sex but I chose to go celibate because of several reasons. “Celibacy topic for another time”
I just mentioned to him today that what he said did something to me and he knows of my celibacy.
So, to his advantage he was saying things like a passionate kiss on the lips, a kiss on the neck and looking sexy once we meet.

I will say what he was saying(text) have me taking a deep breath and a long sigh because Sex/Making Love can be great, fun, fulfilling, passionate and among other great feelings and experience.

Note: I did tell him that I enjoy text/call but he can tell that I like to text more. He is waiting for me to be ready for the more personal thingy. LOL

So, my Beautiful People what do you think?

I would like for you to be "My Beautiful People"

Hello,
I would like to know my readers. Anyone that takes their time out to read my Blogs , you are supporting me.
I do really appreciate you taking the time out to read and getting to know Mamas Girl Alexis.

I do have a link named: "My Beautiful People" located to the Left by clicking on "Follow", you will be my
beautiful person/supporter and I will know who you are.

Note: You Do Not need a Blog in order to be my beautiful person/supporter.

Thank you Future Beautiful Person,
Love Mamas Girl Alexis : )

Emotional, Physical and Mental Abuse?

Does your partner:

humiliate or yell at you?
criticize you and put you down?
treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
blame you for his own abusive behavior?
see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Does your partner:

act excessively jealous and possessive?
control where you go or what you do?
keep you from seeing your friends or family?
limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
constantly check up on you?

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm#signs

Is this something that needs to be questioned in your relationship?
I ask you this because I believe it is happening to someone that I love and care for.

The things I see right now is:
criticize you and put you down?
act excessively jealous and possessive?

That is the two scenarios I have seen in her relationship. I did ask her not to see him or be bothered but she likes him and just takes it as he can be a jerk at times.

You see many women/men can be assholes or maybe a jerk at times but that is being misunderstood by many of us. It is different when it comes to name calling, criticizing, puttimg you down (be littering), jealousy and being posessive towards the person that you are in a relationship/married to.

That type of behavior becomes a problem and I know that I will (self) not stand for it. I know I haven't made the best choices in men but the men that I did choose to deal with was not right/good for me but I was not abused,however(Playing head games is a mental thing.And it can become mental abuse. I know we as human beings make our choices and we may not make the right choice for ourselves. We all as people/human beings need to make decisions and choices that may not be right for us but that is called learning and growing from our mistakes.

However, we need to know our self worth and know that we deserve better.
We may get lonely or feel pressures of friends,family and society about being married before a certain age, having children and settling down.
Remember we all have our time and it may not be on our friends, family or society time because we are all different, we are indiviuals with our own likes, dislikes and mistakes. God has someone great for us and it takes patience because we may get (women/men) frustrated and lonely but don't settle just because your friends are involved or even more committed (married). The person that God has for you will come eventually.

Until then we need to go through frogs, and four legged creatures.

It is needed for when we finally meet that man/woman worth waiting for.

I and many others want our family and friends to be with someone that has their best at heart, that someone that treats you with respect and love and if we do not go through the wrong one. Then we will not know a great man/woman once they are finally presented to you.

Note: We do not need to live with any type of abuse (Mentally, Phiysical and Emotional) to know a great man/woman in our future.

So, I ask of you please let go of that someone that means you no good.
Let go of that one that has bad intentions for you, do not allow someone to mentally, physically and emotionally abuse you. Get out of it, talk to someone and ask for help. A woman/man does not love you if he treats you like your nothing but dirt under their feet.

Take control of you, love you and know that there is help out here for you.
It is ok to be by yourself, so that you can focus on you and let it be about you.
I love you and God loves you and wants the best for you.

Know that physical, mental and emotional abuse is not different over any other. It is unwanted abuse to anyone. It is not healthy for you , you and you.

If you know of anyone that is living with abuse, mental, physical or emotional abuse. Please ask them and let him/her know that they are not alone and it is help out there. I have some links and a number for further information and help.

No woman, child or man should want or have to live with any type of abuse....

Speak up if you suspect domestic violence or any type of abuse

Do:

Ask.

Express concern.

Listen and validate.

Offer help.

Support her/him decisions

Don’t:

Wait for her/him to come to you.

Judge or blame.

Pressure her/him.

Give advice.

Place conditions on your support.


Don’t:

Wait for her/him to come to you.

Judge or blame.

Pressure her/him.

Give advice.

Important Comment from Amber (Supporter):

This not only goes for your partner, but also your friends. I have had to dump several friends because they became "toxic". Even if they are abusive to others and not to you, it spreads to you like a virus and infects your life. The best thing to do is to cut them off.

I felt that this is very important as well and I wanted to add this comment.

Do not accept abuse from anyone, partner, family or friends!!!!

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) – A crisis intervention and referral phone line for domestic violence. (Texas Council on Family Violence)

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/emotional_psychological_trauma.htm

http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/exercise.htm