Thursday, January 21, 2010

Reflect


             Photo By: Vladimir Prelovac
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Take the time from your busy lives & schedules

Take the time out to reflect on your life.
Take the time to be thankful for all you have.
Be thankful for good health, family and great friends.
Be appreciative of all that you have and the ability to strive and have all of your dreams & goals come true.

Reflect on how you and who you is.
Take time to take care of you.
Always have room within your being to be more faithful, allow God in and to improve yourself for the better....
Learn to have patience or just a little more patience, communication, balance and understanding of self & others.

No when to let certain things go
Also laugh a little more, laughter is good for the soul & heart

Work on letting go of past hurts, disappointments and torture (Pain).
Work on letting go of present (here& now) hurt, pain and disappointments.
Learn how to let go of stress and to have a clear mind.
You can stay focused & concentrate on the important things.

That way you can be stress free and you would have joy....
Learn how to let go of people, person or whom ever that means you no good.
If they do not have good intentions let them go.
Some people are just around for a season, reason or a lifetime.

You will know or will know who is which, believe me.
Take pride in yourself, love yourself and learn yourself.
If no one understands you, at least you will understand yourself. : )
Take the time out to just be you, enjoy things you love& like.

Surround yourself with God, Family, Friends (Great True), and Positive things.
Enjoy yourself, enjoy the things you love & enjoy.
Pamper yourself and be good to yourself
Take the time to reflect about you, life, love and joy....

Learn to take the time to enjoy this beautiful world
Enjoy a piece of art, smell a flower, watch the river flow & see the curves in the street.
Look at the definition of a photograph, smell aromas and enjoy a great book.
Take the time to reflect on the great many things.

I wanted to take this time to write this to self, you & you......

Love you and be you and only you......

Will do, to self

Know that you deserve the best in self, relationship, finances, love, careers etc.

Belive that angels do exist, because I do

( I love Angels)

Note to self: Slow down with the pitbull tude

Friday, January 15, 2010

Situation

Anonymous said...


I would first like to thank you for sharing your experience with everyone. It is very hard to open up to anyone after someone hurts you it takes a lot of courage.

Trust is the expectancy of people that they can rely on your word. It is built through integrity and consistency in relationships.

I am still struggling with this and want to take it a step further after reading your blog.

If a person has had an on and off again relationship with the other person without actually commiting but trying to see if things could work out. If a person is going through personal turmoil that is not specific to your relationship and ask if they can trust you? You say Yes you can trust me. Is it fair for them to use that against you in the relationship prior to the commitment? What I'm trying to say is that person has not commited you the other person is free to date whomever they want to. Yet, when they reach the point of wanting the commitment and feel that you should automatically slip into the commitment mode without discussion. Is it fair for them to pull the trust card out on you? Truth be told often times we move on physically or emotionally when the other person is unable to make up their mind. Are we living in a fairy tale world thinking that Love can last without trust or is it possible? I am not sure about you but I have wasted a lot of time by choice in the longevity of relationships waiting for the trust that never was fully captured. Is it true that the other person when asked really has the answer or are they just trying to figure out if. You can be in love yet struggle with trusting the other person when infedelity has taken place?

Ms. A
January 13, 2010 5:56 PM

Hello Supporters (Friends),

I received this comment and I am going to address this topic fully. I will give my opinion on this topic and I will love to receive feedback from my supporters (friends). Because everyone has their own opinion or very own personal experience on this situation and you ( Ms. A ) maybe able to gain an eye opening realization.

While I am tackling this situation, I would in the mean time love to get your feedback on this....

Thank You Guys.... : )

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Muffler gone Bad!!

I was driving on I64 East going to work and it was smooth sailing (that is what I thought), I just finished talking to the Lord. So, I am feeling great and singing to myself (yes,singing to self) because once again my radio is not working. I know, I need to get that looked at, my radio does that from time to time. My baby (car) gets in her moods when she does not want to be bothered. ( You know how we are ladies) LOL.............................

Anyway I am driving and the next exit before the tunnel is coming and then I hear a noise coming from my baby (car) and I am dragging something. I am thinking/saying: (Awwww come on, What is it now, LOL, Can I make it to work because I do not want to get a 1/2 a point for being late, Is it my muffler).

I do take the Mallory exit in Hampton and I pull up in to the Hardee's parking lot. I put my car in park (you noticed, I say car when I am upset with her). I get out the car and go to the rear end of my car and I see my muffler laying on the ground chilling. LOL !

Yes, my muffler laying on the ground!! (Muffler Gone Bad ) : (

I was looking all cute in my gray trouser's and black top, so I was not going to get on knees on the cement. So, I look in my trunk and found my little blanket ( oh man, dont you think nothing ), I take the blanket and bend on my knees to look under my car and I still see the black hard rubber pieces that holds my muffler ( thank god ) so I get the muffler back up in there and secured the muffler with the black locket thingys.
And I was on my way to work once again.

I safely got to work without the relapse of a Muffler Gone Bad.
Yes, I was late but let me say that it was all good because they knew of my situation.

I just wanted to share my Muffler Gone Bad story with you all.
Just one of my great days in my life.... LOL

Hope you all enjoy. If you would like to share any stories, please feel free....I would love to hear one of your great days in your life.... : )

Can you still love him/her without Trust?

In the subway last Sunday, one drunken guy got on the train and started to shout at people. ``You know…. I love her but I can't trust her.'' He seemed really drunk and somewhat desperate. And I started to wonder if love has something to do with trust. Can we love someone whom we cannot trust? Does trust always come with love? Is love one thing and trust another? These questions never seem to go out of style.

By Kim Min-jeong

This is something that is thought about with many. Because love will never go out of style and the questions are endless. Because I believe that every human being wants to be loved, trusted and loved again.
The thing is can I , we or you love someone without trust.

I believe it is possible for a short period of time. The reason I say for a short period of time is because I was in love with someone that I trusted until he done something to our relationship where he has brokem the trust I had for him.

I was in a relationship with him for 4 years and I loved and I trusted him. I felt that he would not break my heart/trust for him. You see how heart (love) & trust falls together because love and trust is blended together.
It is one.
(I do not see how a person can love someone that they cannot trust).

We was together for years and here I was without trust because he took it from me. I will admit that I was still in love with him and he was the man I was going to marry and have his babies. I was heart broken but there was a part of me that still wanted to stay and be with him. I wanted to trust him again, but it would be a long and hard struggle to regain that trust back for him.

Even though we was working on staying together, I still found myself mad, upset,discouraged and distrustful towards him for what he did to me and our relationship. We would have our long conversations of why and how could he make me feel this way. I would find myself questioning all of his actions because I no longer trusted the man I loved.

The relationship did end shortly after trying to regain the trust back for him. I could say that love was not enough to keep our relationship together. We stayed arguing and questioning every move that he made because I no longer had the trust within me for him. From my experience of being in love and trusting the man I was with for several years ended because of no trust. I believe that love and trust is one. You cannot have one without the other.

Other statements on this topic:

Love and trust could be like bricks and cement. When building a house, we place cement before we add a brick so it can settle and attach well. If we don't add enough cement, the house might fall to pieces. To build a strong house, we will have to add enough cement so that all the bricks can stay strong enough not to fall apart. Love and trust could be something that always should stick together and survive together in building a relationship just like bricks and cement in building a house.

By Kim Min-jeong

Love without trust is no love at all. Love is based on trust. The minuite your lover has cheated or especially falls for another that person doesn't love you and that trust destroys and love also destroys because they goes together.Or maybe the person is using one of them to fullfil the void that lives in them.

By Rosepoet


I can love them, but I can't/won't stay with someone I don't trust ... Without trust you have nothing.

by Jen-Jen



A Quote about Trust/Love:
“We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy”

Quoted by: Walter Anderson
Paradoxically meaning: seemingly full of contradictions
http://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/news/special/2010/01/181_49275.html

http://allphilosophy.com/topic/1995
http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/892509
http://thinkexist.com/quotes/walter_anderson/


Hello my supporters/friends, this is my opinion and my own experience with Trust and Love. I would love to receive your feedback on this subject. You can leave a comment or even email me @ npersonality30@aol.com.

Talk to you soon ...... : )

Thursday, January 7, 2010

My Adventure going home to (NY)

Hello my friends,


OMG! 2010 is here and it is great.................................................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I do hope that all of you have had a Great, Safe and Blessed New Years!

I did go home to NY and I had an adventure that need to be shared with you all, lol!
I did not want to drive home to NY because I wanted to sit back and enjoy the ride with someone else driving. That is why I decided to take the China Bus from Virginia to NY. Of course it was crowded because it seemed like most of Virginia was going to NY for the hoildays.
The bus was suppose to leave at 11:45 pm and because of it being crowded, it took a long time to get everyone situated on the bus because the attendant was trying to get people on the bus that came at the last minute with out reservations.
When I looked at my watch it was 12:30am when everyone was finally situated on the bus.We all was ready to get on the road, instead we was approached by the attendant saying if some of the passengers would want to get off and get on the bus that just pulled up, so about 5-6 people got off to take the other bus.
Me and my brother stayed on because we was both settled and to struggle with obtaining our bags from underneath the bus would be terror :)! (My brother came to VA to visit me and his father for Christmas). I was so happy that my brother came down; it was great to see my baby brother!

So, it was 12:54am and we are still sitting in the parking lot (yes that is right, we never left)and everyone is wondering WTF!
Note: It was at least 1-2 passengers outside of the bus:
Then one of the passengers stepped on to the bus and said we have a flat...............................................

Self: WTFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF, OMG Are you kidding me!
Passengers: Why haven't the driver/someone say this S*#% before and we could have gotten on the other bus.
Somehow the passenger figured out a way of putting air in the tire so that the bus driver can get  to a place that would fix the tire.
Note:(The driver could not find anyone to come out and fix the tire) Unreal!

Self: Unbelievable, this is frag er nacile Bullshit! LOL, better not try any funny shit (Too much TV at times)

We pull off about 1:30am and we finally made it to this truck stop located off of I95 around 2 something am and the passenger gets off the bus with the driver & attendant to talk to the people about getting the tire fixed. About 10 minutes late the passenger steps on the bus and said: “We need to ride about 2miles and pull to the side and then call for help"

Self: LOL, wow this is crazy
The passenger goes back outside to continue talking with the men at the truck stop and about 5minutes later the tire is being worked on.

Self: Ok, I guess the people felt bad and decided to fix the damn tire (Should not need to drive no damn 2miles to get some damn help anyway).

I did forget to mention that it was snowing, yes it was snowing.....................................................
So, finally we was off to see the wizard, hahahaha, could not help but to say it like that, anyway we get on the road at 3 something in the morning to NY. We all made it safely to NY, which is always important.

A drive that usually takes 6 hours to 6 and 1/2 hours to get home to NY, this adventure took 11hours to get home! Wow, that is all I can say......................... : ) LOL..................................................................

Oh, yea my brother was sleep through the whole adventure!

One more thing, the passenger said that he was going to get paid by helping the driver out and the he got paid $10.00. Yes, Ten Dollars. LOL. He did say something to the driver and was like " how are you only giving me $10.00 after me helping you, you know that is not right"

Self: At least you are $10.00 richer!

Hope you enjoyed our adventure home to NY...................... Happy New Year !!!!

Remarks from CBS Sunday Morning - Ben Stein

This was brought to my attention from my friend Arlene B. She actually copied the email and gave it to her co-workers and I did not get a chance to read the paper yesterday 01.06.10. I was checking my yahoo account and the email was there as well. I took the time out to read it and it is true and great to read.
It really does get you to thinking because the statements are so true. I want to share this with all of you..

I would love to hear what you think about this?

The following was written by Ben Stein and recited by him on CBS Sunday Morning Commentary.

My confession:

I am a Jew, and every single one of my ancestors was Jewish. And it does not bother me even a little bit when people call those beautiful lit up, bejeweled trees, Christmas trees. I don't feel threatened. I don't feel discriminated against. That's what they are, Christmas trees.

It doesn't bother me a bit when people say, 'Merry Christmas' to me. I don't think they are slighting me or getting ready to put me in a ghetto. In fact, I kind of like it. It shows that we are all brothers and sisters celebrating this happy time of year. It doesn't bother me at all that there is a manger scene on display at a key intersection near my beach house in Malibu. If people want a crèche, it's just as fine with me as is the Menorah a few hundred yards away.

I don't like getting pushed around for being a Jew, and I don't think Christians like getting pushed around for being Christians. I think people who believe in God are sick and tired of getting pushed around, period. I have no idea where the concept came from, that America is an explicitly atheist country. I can't find it in the Constitution and I don't like it being shoved down my throat.

Or maybe I can put it another way: where did the idea come from that we should worship celebrities and we aren't allowed to worship God as we understand Him? I guess that's a sign that I'm getting old, too. But there are a lot of us who are wondering where these celebrities came from and where the America we knew went to.

In light of the many jokes we send to one another for a laugh, this is a little different: This is not intended to be a joke; it's not funny, it's intended to get you thinking.

Billy Graham's daughter was interviewed on the Early Show and Jane Clayson asked her 'How could God let something like this happen?' (regarding Hurricane Katrina). Anne Graham gave an extremely profound and insightful response. She said, 'I believe God is deeply saddened by this, just as we are, but for years we've been telling God to get out of our schools, to get out of our government and to get out of our lives. And being the gentleman He is, I believe He has calmly backed out. How can we expect God to give us His blessing and His protection if we demand He leave us alone?'

In light of recent events....Terrorists attack, school shootings, etc. I think it started when Madeleine Murray O'Hare (she was murdered, her body found a few years ago) complained she didn't want prayer in our schools, and we said OK. Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school. The Bible says thou shalt not kill; thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as yourself. And we said OK.

Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn't spank our children when they misbehave, because their little personalities would be warped and we might damage their self-esteem (Dr. Spock's son committed suicide.) We said an expert should know what he's talking about. And we said okay.

Now we're asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they don't know right from wrong, and why it doesn't bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and themselves.
Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can figure it out. I think it has a great deal to do with 'WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.'

Funny how simple it is for people to trash God and then wonder why the world's going to hell. Funny how we believe what the newspapers say, but question what the Bible says. Funny how you can send 'jokes' through e-mail and they spread like wildfire, but when you start sending messages regarding the Lord, people think twice about sharing. Funny how lewd, crude, vulgar and obscene articles pass freely through cyberspace, but public discussion of God is suppressed in the school and workplace.

Are you laughing yet?

Funny how when you forward this message, you will not send it to many on your address list because you're not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for sending it.

Funny how we can be more worried about what other people think of us than what God thinks of us.

Pass it on if you think it has merit.

If not, then just discard it.... No one will know you did. But, if you discard this thought process, don't sit back and complain about what bad shape the world is in.

My Best Regards, Honestly and Respectfully,

Ben Stein